Comments on: Lather, Rinse, Repeat.

By: kami42

kami42 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 23:55:50 +0000

So, so true. I have to say that a good therapist really helped me. I learned a lot about how to change my thoughts and develop different coping skills.

Keep breathing.

By: May

May — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 00:12:42 +0000

It does just. Go. ON. Doesn’t it? Endless waiting and slaps-in-face. Utterly weird unexpected slaps-in-face, too, so you can’t brace.

So sorry. Hope the Pumpkin Latte unknotted your accessories.

By: kpick3

kpick3 — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 16:30:34 +0000

This is Kim from Baby Shmaybe? Thanks for visiting. I totally hear you on this. For me it is not even the expected things that send me into the loop, like others and their families, its things I am not expecting to affect me like going into an indecisive panic at the car dealership because I don’t know whether to get my hopes up and buy the suv with the big back seat and roomy cargo area or the unaccomodating but economic and good for the two of us compact. Not being able to control when it hits me pisses me off.

P.S. I have a friend, who, when necessary, keeps a flask in her stocking (garter belt style) under a skirt. She has horrible in laws who also happen to not believe in alcohol. The first time I saw her do it I lost it. I am laughing now.

Oh, God. That’s such a good idea!!

By: annacyclopedia

annacyclopedia — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 20:42:57 +0000

You. Are. A. Genius.

“I could wear my intestines as a scarf. They’re just knotted up around my neck anyway. If I could just figure out how to accessorize….”

Genius. True and funny and true. My G*D!

Yeah, good old equanimity. It’s so hard to find, and when I find it, it’s always hard to hang on to. For me, it helps when I just accept how much everything hurts. It’s always way harder for me when I feel like I shouldn’t be hurting as much as I am, or there’s something wrong with me for having my gravy soaking everything else on my emotional plate (another genius metaphor, by the way.) It’s hard to plaster on the smile over top of all that, but sometimes it’s for the best. The trick for me is just to remember that I have absolutely no obligation to be genuine in the smile, and that I am free to feel however it is I feel, right here and right now.

Hope that’s woo-woo enough for you. It’s snowing here and I’m feeling kind of introspective…

You know, I didn’t think of it that way. Denying the hurt sure does make everything worse….